Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Babies :)


In the past 2 1/2 years or 3 maybe even 4 most my childhood friends/family are either getting married or having babies. Don't get me wrong that's amazing for them, and I couldn't be happier for them. I wish them and their families nothing but the best.  

I found out last month that my younger brother and his wonderful girlfriend are having a baby! A BIG Congratulations and best wishes to them :) I couldn't be happier for them. Their pregnancy is still in the early stage right now, her morning sickness just started. They plan on getting engaged, and married before the baby comes along. Some might say that people are getting married and having babies to young these days. And you would be partially right. Back in the day say 10 to 12 years ago. People planed on getting married and having kids after they have experienced everything they wanted to in their life and are in a good place in life to have a baby financially, career wise and so on. 

I'm not saying that having kids early is a bad thing. As long as you can take proper care of that child, and make sure they have and get all the things they need. Let's be honest these days it's hard enough to get by on your own let alone adding another person to that, especially young people who just graduated and are going into the world for the first time. Having a baby is not a cake walk. Your up all hours feeding and trying to get them to go to sleep. Everyone involved looses sleep. You still have to cook and clean and do all the stuff you did before the baby came, except the unhealthy things like smoking and so on. There are some people out there who have done it. And to those parent I say 'Job Well Done'. 

I guess it really depends on where you and your partner are in your lives. For example my brother and his girlfriend. They have been together for a year, it'll be 2 years in December for them. Yes they both are very young, but they both love each other very much and they are at a place in their lives where they feel is a good time for them to have children. It's not like she just wants a kid and he doesn't or vice versa . They both want kids and are extremely happy and excited about their unborn baby. It's usually the people who want to have kinds and plan on it that are good loving parents. And I know that they will be great parents. :) 

Personally for me I'm a little more old fashioned and so is my boyfriend. I didn't want to have a baby at a young age. It wasn't until late this year that my wonderful boyfriend and I started thinking about having kids. I mean we've talked about it before and all, but we want to have a baby here in the near future. But before we do that we want to be in a good place financially and so forth. We both grew up in poverty and don't want to raise our child like that. We want our child to have a better childhood/ life than we had. I like my mother think that a good age to have a child is your mid 20's. You've had time to be in a good place to have children. Schooling is done, good job attained, house in a good neighborhood with schools. We most definitely do NOT want to move our child around from house to house like I and my boyfriend did as children. It sucks having to change schools and homes constantly. 

Hopefully in the next year or 2 we will have all our stuff together, good paying job, good house and everything else we want to accomplish before we have our first child. :) The more I think about it the more real it becomes, and the more excited I get about one day becoming a mommy.  :) When that day comes it will be one of the most wonderful experiences of my life, a true blessing. But until then I am more than happy with what I have right now. A true partner in life, someone I will gladly grow old with. :) Someone who loves me more than anything because I'm his everything. Someone who's always there for me and has my back no matter what. Someone who wants nothing more than to make me happy every single day. Someone who completes me and keeps me centered when I'm about to lose my cool. Someone who is my other half or better half :) THE ONE I am going to spend the rest of my life with.  SO BLESSED :) <3



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